Privacy & safety
Privacy and device safety
This page explains, honestly and in plain language, what this site does and does not do with your information, and how a shared or monitored device can affect your privacy.
In immediate danger, call 911 when it is safe to do so. Choosing any button on this site does not dispatch help or file a report.
The Leave site button
Every page has a "Leave site" button. It opens another website immediately, in the same tab, without asking for confirmation. It clears any choices you made in a help tool on this site.
Leave site opens another website. It does not erase browsing history, phone logs, messages, downloads, or monitoring records. Clearing tool answers does not clear browser history.
A monitored device may reveal your visit
If someone is monitoring your phone or computer, they may be able to see that you visited this site. Private browsing does not guarantee privacy. If you can, use a device you believe is safer, such as a trusted friend's device or a public library computer.
We do not automatically clear your browser history or instruct you to delete records, disable tracking, or change passwords. These changes can be noticed and require situation-specific consideration. This website cannot detect spyware.
What this site does
- You do not need an account, a name, or a story to browse.
- Help-tool selections stay in your browser's memory only. They are not saved to a database, cookie, or storage.
- This site does not use advertising trackers, session replay, heatmaps, or AI analysis of visitors' stories.
- It measures only aggregate, privacy-preserving counts: page visits, outbound clicks to official services, and sharing-tool usage. No personal details or help selections are included.
- Sensitive choices are never placed in web addresses (URLs), analytics events, or error reports.
What this site does not do
- It does not automatically clear your device's history, download files, or change browser settings.
- It does not automatically call, text, share your location, or submit reports on your behalf.
- Choosing any button on this site does not dispatch help or file a report.
- Contacting another service uses that service's privacy rules, not this site's.
How technology can be used to control
Technology-facilitated abuse happens when someone uses phones, apps, location tracking, cameras, or smart home devices to maintain power over another person. Recognizing these tactics is not about labeling a person or making a clinical diagnosis.
Phone monitoring and password demands
Checking call logs, text messages, and social media without permission. Demanding passwords or always knowing who someone is communicating with.
Location tracking
Using GPS, shared location apps, or tracking devices to monitor where someone goes and who they see.
Hidden cameras and recording
Placing hidden cameras in private spaces, recording conversations without consent, or using smart home devices to watch or listen.
Financial surveillance
Monitoring bank accounts, controlling spending through shared apps, or receiving alerts for every purchase.
Smart home manipulation
Using smart locks, thermostats, lights, or speakers to control the environment, lock someone out, or create fear.
Practical digital safety steps
If you suspect your devices are being monitored, abrupt changes can sometimes alert the person watching. A trained advocate can help you plan safer steps for your specific situation.
- Use a device the other person does not have access to, such as a library computer or a trusted friend's phone, when searching for help.
- Check location-sharing settings on your phone and apps. Turn off sharing only if it is safe to do so, since a sudden change may be noticed.
- Change passwords from a safe device, and use a password the other person will not guess. Enable two-factor authentication where available.
- Review which apps have access to your camera, microphone, contacts, and location. Remove unfamiliar apps if it is safe to do so.
- Be aware that browsing history, search history, and even deleted messages may be visible to someone with access to your device or accounts.
These steps are general guidance, not a guarantee of safety. This content has not been clinically reviewed.
Hosting and logs
Like most websites, the service that hosts this site may keep technical logs (such as request times) as part of normal operation. This site does not combine those logs with your identity or your story, because it does not collect them. If you need stronger anonymity, use a safer device.